You Crave a D/s Dynamic, But Aren't Quite Sure Where to Start.
Maybe you and your partner have fantasized about Dominance and submission for years. The thought of one person taking control and the other surrendering is incredibly exciting. But turning those fantasies into reality? That's where things get complicated.
Perhaps your partner recently confessed their desire to be dominated, and you're eager to give them that experience, but you're not quite sure what they expect from you.
Or maybe you've already tried creating a D/s dynamic. Things started off hot and exciting, but somewhere along the way, the dynamic fizzled out, leaving you frustrated, disconnected, or right back where you started.
Sound familiar…
You don't know where to begin. You both want to explore Dominance and submission, but aren't sure how to get started or what you're actually supposed to do in your respective roles.
You want more than just kinky sex. You crave the excitement, intimacy, and power exchange of D/s throughout your relationship, but aren't sure how to bring it outside the bedroom.
You're struggling to create structure. You've heard about D/s contracts, rules, rituals, protocols, and submissive training, but don't know which ones make sense for your relationship or how to implement them.
Your dynamic keeps fading away. One week, you're fully immersed in your roles. The next, life gets busy, old habits return, and the dynamic seems to disappear entirely.
You're not always on the same page. You each have your own ideas of what Dominance and submission should look like, and figuring out how to create a dynamic that fulfills both of you can be challenging.
You know what you want to experience. You just don't know how to make it happen.
And the last thing you want is for something that should bring you closer together to become another source of frustration in your relationship.
I Had to Figure This Out, Too.
Hey, I'm Brandon the Dom.
Today, I'm a sex and relationship coach helping couples create deeply fulfilling D/s relationships, both inside and outside the bedroom.
But when I first started exploring Dominance and submission, I had plenty of desires and fantasies, and very little idea of how to actually make them happen.
I spent years learning, experimenting, making mistakes, and figuring out what worked and what didn't. And as my relationships evolved, so did my understanding of what makes a D/s dynamic truly fulfilling.
I discovered that great dynamics don't just happen because two people want Dominance and submission.
They're intentionally built around the needs, desires, and lives of the people involved.
And there's no single right way to do it.
Today, I live in a 24/7 D/s dynamic that my partner and I have intentionally built together. But getting here wasn't always straightforward. We've experimented with different approaches, discovered what worked, abandoned what didn't, and continually refined our dynamic as our relationship evolved.
Through coaching, I've also helped couples with a wide variety of desires, from those taking their very first steps into bedroom power exchange to those building elaborate Total Power Exchange relationships.
Along the way, I've developed and refined practical tools, frameworks, and processes for helping couples turn their desires into reality.And that's exactly what I want to share with you.
Not a rigid set of rules for what your relationship should look like, but a step-by-step process for creating the dynamic you've always wanted.
Imagine...
Imagine confidently stepping into your roles as Dominant and submissive, knowing exactly how to create the experiences you've both been fantasizing about.
Imagine bringing your deepest desires to life in the bedroom. The anticipation of what's to come. The thrill of taking control or surrendering it. The freedom to explore your sexuality together with greater confidence, trust, and intimacy.
And imagine taking that connection beyond the bedroom.The little rituals that remind you of your roles throughout the day. The rules and protocols that bring structure and intention to your relationship. The feeling of being deeply cared for, desired, and devoted to one another.
A dynamic where you both understand what's expected of you, where your needs and desires are fulfilled, and where Dominance and submission bring you closer together rather than creating confusion or frustration.
Best of all, imagine a dynamic that actually works with your life.
Not something you have to constantly force or struggle to maintain. Not someone else's idea of what a D/s relationship should look like.
But something uniquely yours, whether that's a little extra power exchange in the bedroom or a fully immersive 24/7 lifestyle.
A D/s dynamic designed by the two of you, for the two of you.
Designing Dynamics
Designing Dynamics is a comprehensive online course that takes you and your partner from fantasizing about Dominance and submission to confidently creating a dynamic that works for your relationship.
Whether you're exploring power exchange for the first time or trying to rebuild a dynamic that never quite worked, you'll learn the skills, tools, and processes to bring your desires to life.
Together, you'll discover how to introduce Dominance and submission into the bedroom, deepen your connection through power exchange, and create the structure to make D/s a fulfilling part of your everyday relationship.
But here's what makes Designing Dynamics different.
I'm not going to tell you what your D/s relationship should look like. I'm going to teach you how to design it.
You'll learn how to identify your individual needs, desires, boundaries, and limits, then use them as the foundation for building a dynamic that fulfills both of you.
No cookie-cutter contracts. No arbitrary rules. No trying to force your relationship into someone else's idea of Dominance and submission.
Just a practical, step-by-step process for creating something that's exciting, sustainable, and uniquely yours.
What You'll Learn Inside
Designing Dynamics takes you through the process of building a D/s relationship, one step at a time.
We'll start with the foundations of power exchange, helping you understand your roles, communicate your desires, and establish the trust and consent necessary to explore safely.
From there, we'll step into the bedroom, where you'll learn how to create exciting sexual experiences through Dominance and submission.
Then, for couples who want to take things further, we'll move beyond the bedroom and explore how to design a D/s dynamic that becomes part of your everyday relationship.
By the end, you'll have more than just knowledge about Dominance and submission. You'll have the tools and a practical plan for creating, implementing, and maintaining your own dynamic.
Sexual Dominance & Submission
Power Exchange & Roles: Discover the unique dance between Dominance and submission, how the two roles complement one another, and how to confidently step into each.
Consent: Go beyond a simple yes or no to understand the nuances of consent and how to create an environment where both partners feel comfortable exploring their desires.
Negotiation: Learn a structured process for discussing your needs, desires, boundaries, and limits so you can confidently explore what excites you both.
Safety & Risk: Understand the risks of common BDSM activities and how to make informed decisions that allow you to explore with greater confidence.
Aftercare: Learn how to transition into and out of scenes with intention, care, and connection, supporting both the Dominant and submissive.
Scene Crafting: Follow a step-by-step process for designing exciting, meaningful BDSM scenes that bring your fantasies to life, complete with practical examples.
Relational Dominance & Submission
Partial vs. Total Power Exchange: Explore the spectrum of D/s relationships, from occasional power exchange to immersive 24/7 dynamics, and discover the level of Dominance and submission that's right for you.
Purpose & Vision: Define the shared purpose, values, and vision of your dynamic so your power exchange becomes a meaningful part of your relationship.
Relational Negotiation: Uncover each partner's core needs, desires, boundaries, and limits, then use them to design a dynamic that deeply fulfills both of you.
Structure & Code of Conduct: Create your own rules, rituals, protocols, and expectations that give your dynamic structure without making it unnecessarily complicated or difficult to maintain.
Submissive Training: Learn how to gradually introduce and implement your dynamic through a structured training process that builds confidence, consistency, and new habits.
Discipline & Accountability: Discover how to use the Accountability Triangle to address broken agreements, encourage growth, and hold both partners accountable to the commitments they've made.
Maintaining Your Dynamic: Learn my favorite tools and practices for keeping your dynamic alive, navigating challenges, and adapting as your relationship evolves.
Everything You Need to Bring Your Dynamic to Life
Comprehensive, Step-by-Step Video Lessons: 23 modules with over 6 hours of content, taking you from the fundamentals of power exchange to designing and maintaining your own dynamic. Every lesson builds on the last, with bite-sized videos that make learning easy to fit into your schedule.
Practical Exercises & Conversation Guides: Put what you learn into practice with 20+ hours actionable exercises, guided conversations, and reflection questions throughout the course. You'll work together to uncover your desires, make important decisions, and build your dynamic one step at a time.
Ready-to-Use Frameworks & Real Examples: Skip the guesswork with practical tools and examples for negotiating scenes, designing your Code of Conduct, establishing rules and rituals, implementing training, and maintaining your dynamic.
Real-World Insights From an Experienced Dominant: Learn from someone who actually lives a 24/7 D/s dynamic. I'll share what I've learned through years of personal experience and coaching couples, including the mistakes I've made, what worked, what didn't, and how you can apply those lessons to your own relationship.
Lifetime Access to a Supportive Community: Join an exclusive community where you can ask questions, share experiences, receive feedback, and connect with others exploring Dominance and submission. Get the encouragement and accountability you need as you build your dynamic.
Lifetime Access to the Course: Learn at your own pace and revisit the lessons whenever you need them. Whether you're creating your first dynamic or refining it years down the road, you'll always have access to the tools and resources inside Designing Dynamics.
Price: $800 Per Month
Start Designing Your Dynamic Today
One Last Word...
There's something incredibly exciting about exploring Dominance and submission with someone you love.
The thrill of taking control or surrendering it. The anticipation of what's to come. The deeper trust, intimacy, and connection that can develop when two people intentionally explore their desires together.
But turning those desires into reality isn't always easy.You can spend years trying to figure it all out yourself, piecing together advice, experimenting with different approaches, and learning through trial and error.
Or you can start with a roadmap built from years of experience, giving you the tools and guidance to create something that works for both of you.
Your dream dynamic isn't going to build itself.
But with the right tools, a willing partner, and a little intentional effort, you can turn those fantasies into something real.
So stop just fantasizing about the D/s relationship you want. Start designing it.
I'll show you how.
— Brandon the Dom
Enroll in Designing Dynamics Today — $297
Frequently Asked Questions
Absolutely! In fact, this course was designed with beginners in mind. You don't need any prior experience with BDSM or power exchange. We'll start with the fundamentals and guide you step by step through creating your first scenes, defining your roles, and building your own D/s dynamic.
Then this course may be exactly what you need! Many couples jump into D/s with exciting fantasies but little understanding of how to make their dynamic work in practice. Designing Dynamics will help you identify what wasn't working, revisit your needs and expectations, and develop a more intentional approach to building a dynamic that lasts.
Not at all! There's no single right way to practice Dominance and submission. Whether you want occasional power exchange in the bedroom, a few rituals throughout the day, or an immersive 24/7 Total Power Exchange relationship, you'll learn how to design a dynamic that fits your desires and lifestyle.
Yes! Designing Dynamics teaches both sides of power exchange. You'll learn how Dominants and submissives can work together to create a dynamic that fulfills both partners, with exercises and conversations designed to help you understand each other's needs, desires, boundaries, and limits.
Not at all! Dominance and submission aren't limited to any particular gender, sexual orientation, or relationship structure.
As someone who practices consensual non-monogamy myself, I understand that relationships come in many different forms. The tools and frameworks in Designing Dynamics are designed to help you create a dynamic around your unique needs, desires, boundaries, and limits, whether you're monogamous, non-monogamous, heterosexual, LGBTQ+, or anything in between.
I highly recommend going through the course together! Designing a D/s dynamic is a collaborative process, and many of the exercises involve conversations and decisions you'll make as a couple.
However, you can still benefit from taking the course individually, especially if you're looking to better understand D/s before introducing it to your partner.
That's perfectly normal! You don't need to have identical desires to create a fulfilling D/s relationship.
In fact, one of the most important parts of this course is learning how to identify and negotiate your individual needs, desires, boundaries, and limits. You'll develop a shared vision for your dynamic without expecting either partner to abandon what's important to them.
That depends on your goals and how much time you want to dedicate to the process.
You can begin exploring sexual Dominance and submission relatively quickly, while building a more extensive lifestyle dynamic takes additional conversations, experimentation, and practice.
The course is designed to help you progress step by step, so you can start experiencing power exchange while gradually building toward your shared vision.
That's exactly why Designing Dynamics includes tools for maintaining your relationship over the long term.
You'll learn how to establish regular check-ins, address broken agreements, maintain accountability, and adjust your dynamic as your needs and circumstances change.
A successful D/s relationship isn't one that never encounters challenges. It's one where both partners have the tools to navigate them together.
You'll receive lifetime access to Designing Dynamics, so you can learn at your own pace and revisit the lessons whenever you need them.
As your relationship evolves, you can return to the frameworks, exercises, and resources to refine your dynamic or explore new possibilities.
You'll receive lifetime access to an exclusive community where you can ask questions, share your experiences, and receive feedback and support from others exploring Dominance and submission.
And if you want more personalized guidance, I also offer private coaching for individuals and couples who want help designing or improving their D/s relationships.
Nope! One purchase of Designing Dynamics covers both you and your partner. You can go through the lessons together, complete the exercises as a couple, and work toward building your shared D/s dynamic without paying for two enrollments.
Absolutely! I want you and your partner to be thrilled with the course and excited about the dynamic you're creating together. If you're not satisfied with your purchase, simply email me for a full refund.
