What Are The Red Room Forums?
The Red Room is a private, member-driven community for people exploring Dominance and submission who want real-world results—not just ideas.
This isn’t a place to casually chat or collect opinions. Inside, you’ll find clarity, accountability, and grounded encouragement from people who understand the emotional, relational, and erotic realities of D/s.
Whether you’re brand new to kink or already building a Dominant/submissive dynamic, The Red Room helps you move forward with more confidence, less confusion, and far less overwhelm.
This isn’t just a course library.
It’s not just a forum.
It’s an intentional environment for growth, where learning happens through conversation, reflection, and being witnessed by others on a similar path.
The support you’ve been missing?
It’s already happening inside.
Why I Built The Red Room
When I first started exploring Dominance and submission, I struggled to find peers I could actually talk to. My vanilla friends didn’t understand this world, and trying to navigate kink information online was overwhelming, confusing, and often misleading.
Eventually, I found real community through local munches—and that changed everything.But one thing became obvious very quickly: most of this lifestyle happens behind closed doors. That privacy can be deeply fulfilling, and it can also be deeply isolating. When you don’t have people who get it, self-doubt, shame, and second-guessing creep in fast.
After years of being involved in local kink communities, I’ve seen the same pattern over and over again: people grow faster, with more clarity and far less shame, when they’re witnessed by others who truly understand what they’re exploring.
That’s why I created The Red Room.
Think of it as a munch with intention—a place for people who are curious, self-aware, and serious about building Dominance, submission, and relationships that actually work. A space to explore sex, power, and connection without having to sanitize yourself for polite conversation or figure everything out alone.
This isn’t a place to lurk, perform, or posture.
It’s a place to learn, reflect, experiment, and grow—together.
And here’s my commitment to you: I will actively protect the tone, quality, and integrity of this space so it remains supportive, grounded, and genuinely useful—not another loud corner of the internet.
If you’ve been looking for your people, this is where I intended you to find them.
Inside The Red Room, You’ll Get...
Ask Brandon The Dom
Ask me questions directly and get thoughtful responses—either written or recorded—based on real experience, not theory. You’ll also gain access to a growing archive of answers to other members’ questions, so you can learn from situations beyond your own.
Peer Discussions That Actually Help
Ask questions and engage in discussions with others who are actively living this lifestyle. You’ll get grounded feedback, diverse perspectives, and insight from people who understand the nuances of Dominance, submission, sex, and relationships—not drive-by opinions from outsiders.
Personal Logs
Your own space to document and reflect on your journey through BDSM and D/s. Share discoveries, challenges, and growth—and learn by witnessing how others build their dynamics, express desire, navigate real-life obstacles, and integrate kink into everyday life.
This is where patterns become clear, shame softens, and real progress happens.
An Intentional, Curated Community
This isn’t the chaos of FetLife or Reddit. The Red Room is actively moderated and thoughtfully structured to support maturity, respect, and meaningful conversation. The result is a community of care, accountability, and genuine support.
Bonus Access
Members also receive access to exclusive material that doesn’t always fit on YouTube or social media—such as recordings of group calls, live sessions, behind-the-scenes insights, and occasional exclusive content or previews.
Everything inside The Red Room is designed to support real growth, not endless scrolling.
Red Room Membership Options
Ask Brandon The Dom — direct access to ask questions and learn from answer archives ($197 Value)
Peer Questions & Discussions — real conversations with people actively living the lifestyle ($97 Value)
Personal Logs — a private space to track your journey and receive feedback ($97 Value)
Intentional, Curated Community — actively moderated for respect, depth, and support
Bonus Access — future exclusive content, group call recordings, live sessions, and previews
Cancel anytime. Stay as long as it serves you.
About Brandon The Dom
Hey, I’m Brandon—the creator of The Red Room.
Today, I help people explore Dominance, submission, and power dynamics with clarity, integrity, and confidence.
I work with men stepping into grounded Dominance, women exploring surrender with agency, and couples building deeper intimacy, wilder sex, and stronger emotional connection.
But I wasn’t always this clear or confident.
Like many people drawn to this lifestyle, I had a lot of desire—and very little guidance. I knew there was more available to me sexually and relationally, but I didn’t have a roadmap, role models, or a place where I could talk about it honestly.
I came from a family with poor relationship examples. I spent over a decade in a long-term relationship, including four years of marriage, where the passion slowly faded. Something essential in me felt muted.
After that relationship ended, I immersed myself in the BDSM community. I attended play parties, trained as a dungeon monitor, hosted munches, organized events, and built deeply connected, kinky relationships—all while learning how to communicate clearly, navigate consent and power responsibly, and show up with emotional presence.
That path didn’t just change my sex life.
It changed how I lead, how I relate, and how I live.Along the way, one truth became unmistakable: people grow faster and with far less shame when they’re not doing this alone.
The Red Room exists to be the space I wish I’d had earlier—a grounded, intentional community where people can learn, reflect, ask real questions, and be witnessed by others who actually understand this lifestyle.I’m here not just as a teacher, but as a steward of the culture we’re building.
Ready to Find Join Your People?
If you’ve been trying to figure this out on your own—through articles, videos, or scattered conversations—this is your invitation to stop doing it alone.
The Red Room is where learning becomes lived experience, and curiosity turns into confident action.
