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Sex Menu: Ultimate Tool To Quickly Communicate Your Desires

Having trouble communicating your desires with your partner? Try using a sex menu, a powerful tool for telling your partner everything that turns you on, quickly and with less anxiety about talking about your desires!

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How to Support BDSM & Sexual Partners with Trauma

How can you support a partner with trauma while exploring sex or BDSM safely and lovingly? Learn trauma-informed ways to build trust, create emotional safety, and help your partner reconnect with their body, pleasure, and power.

How to Navigate Age-Gap Relationships (and Power Imbalances)

What is an age gap relationship, and can it really work? Explore the dynamics, benefits, and potential risks of age-gap relationships, and learn how informed consent, communication, and mutual respect can make them fulfilling and nurturing for both partners.

The Beginner’s Handbook to Attending a BDSM Play Party

Ever wondered what really goes on at a BDSM Play Party? Learn how to survive your first event, turn nerves into confidence, and have an unforgettable night of kink, connection, and fun—without feeling lost or overwhelmed.

BDSM Limits and Boundaries: Building a Sandbox for BDSM Play

What’s the difference between BDSM limits and boundaries—and why do they matter so much? Learn how to confidently set, communicate, and honor your BDSM limits and boundaries to create safer, hotter, and more connected power exchange dynamics.

Bootstrapping a D/s Dynamic: The Bottom-Up Approach to Building Dom Sub Dynamics with New Partners

Want a D/s dynamic but not sure how to start with a new partner? Learn how to build your Dom/sub relationship step by step—no experience or rigid contract required. Explore bottom-up D/s dynamics that grow with you.

How to Have Difficult Conversations with Your Partner

Need to have a talk with a partner? This guide explores the art of navigating difficult conversations, with proven tools for improving communication skills, and creating deeper connections—whether in serious or casual relationships.

Do You Want a Dom, a Top, or Just Some Rough Sex?

Do you actually want a Dom, a Top, or just rough sex? Many people use the word "Dominant" without defining their desires, leading to frustration and disappointment. Learn the differences between rough sex, kinky play with a skilled Top, and power exchange with a Dom—helping you clarify what you want and communicate it effectively.

Building Trust in Dom/sub Relationship is a Two-Way Street

Explore the two sides of trust in Dom/Sub dynamics. Understand how to be trustworthy and how to trust your partner, creating a fulfilling and secure D/s relationship.

How to Stop Having Unfulfilling Situationships

Tired of unfulfilling situationships? Learn the simple (but sometimes hard to do) practice to build a more fulfilling relationship.

Two Must-Ask Questions for Better Sex

These two deceptively simple questions will change your sex life and drastically improve your chances of finding fulfillment in your pleasure.

Ethical Non Monogamy: A Practical Guide to Having Multiple Partners

Curious about ethical non monogamy? Learn what ethical non monogamy (ENM) is, why someone would want to share or have multiple partners, and how to practice ENM for multiple happy relationships.

Attending Your First BDSM Munch? Here’s What to Expect

Want to start getting into the kink scene and community? Try a munch, a social gathering for kinky people. In this article, learn what happens at munches, what to talk about, how to act, and where to find them.

Sex Menu: Ultimate Tool To Quickly Communicate Your Desires

Your Attachment Style is Impacting Your Relationships and Sex Life (Including Casual Sex)

What is your attachment style? Do you feel secure, or do you sometimes get told your clingy or maybe unavailable? Do you know how attachment styles effect your relationships and sex life? This article will cover everything you need to know about your attachment style and how to become more secure.

5 Tools to Communicate Your Sexual Turn Ons

You have so many desires you wish to have fulfilled, yet you don't know how to bring them up with your partner... Worse yet, you fear they will judge you, shame you, find you disgusting... How will you ever live out your fantasies? These 5 tools will make communicating with your partner quick, easy, and a lot of fun for the both of you, all within a container of openness and non-judgement.

Your Greatest Fear In A Relationship: They Will Leave You

What's your greatest relationship fear? Why are you always afraid to have deep conversations with your partner? Why do not enforce boundaries? Why do feel insecure? All of these are just masks of the same underlying fear: that your partner will leave you. Discover how this fear wreaks havoc on your relationships and what you can do to overcome it.

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Get Started With D/s Fast

Curious about Dominance and submission but not sure where to start? Want to spark passion, banish fear, and create a dynamic that actually works? This free 3-part video series is your step-by-step roadmap to kickstarting D/s in the bedroom, overcoming your biggest fears, and building a Dom/sub relationship with confidence.

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Sex Menu Template

A sex menu is a communication and self discovery tool. If you have a hard time speaking about sex in person, your desires, and your boundaries, it can be easier to write it down. Most people have also never taken the time to really express what turns them on, what they want in sex, and just leave it up to chance. In my experience, great consistent sex happens with communication (and a whole lot of fun along the way.) This free, easy to use template features 350+ kinky sex acts you can rate, make notes, and share with your partner!

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