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10 Hidden Benefits of a Dom Sub Relationship (Beyond Just Hot Sex)

What makes a Dom sub relationship so powerful? Discover the surprising benefits of power exchange, from deeper intimacy to hotter passion.

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Why Grief Can Kill—or Intensify—Your Sexual Desire

What happens when grief changes your relationship with sex in ways you don’t expect? This article explores how loss impacts desire, intimacy, and erotic identity, helping you understand your shifting sexuality, release shame, and navigate sex with compassion during times of grief

When Your Need for Control Might Be Hurting Your Dynamic

What if the control you think you have in a D/s relationship is nothing more than an illusion? Explore how dominance is built—not through force or perfection, but through intention, consent, self-mastery, and real control.

BDSM Rules Explained: How to Create Structure Without Killing the Spark

What makes BDSM rules effective—and why do so many couples get them wrong? Discover how to create meaningful, sustainable BDSM rules that deepen trust, strengthen dynamics, and turn obedience into devotion.

How to Support BDSM & Sexual Partners with Trauma

How can you support a partner with trauma while exploring sex or BDSM safely and lovingly? Learn trauma-informed ways to build trust, create emotional safety, and help your partner reconnect with their body, pleasure, and power.

How to Compromise in Relationships Without Sacrificing Yourself

Struggling to balance your needs with your partner’s? Learn how to practice effective compromise in relationships, resolve conflicts, and build deeper connections with strategies that work.

How to Navigate Age-Gap Relationships (and Power Imbalances)

What is an age gap relationship, and can it really work? Explore the dynamics, benefits, and potential risks of age-gap relationships, and learn how informed consent, communication, and mutual respect can make them fulfilling and nurturing for both partners.

Discipline Isn’t Punishment: The Secret to a Thriving D/s Relationship

Ever wondered how discipline can make your BDSM dynamic stronger and more erotic? Discover how expanding your understanding of discipline—beyond just punishment—creates structure, accountability, and deeper connection for both Dominant and submissive.

10 Hidden Benefits of a Dom Sub Relationship (Beyond Just Hot Sex)

What makes a Dom sub relationship so powerful? Discover the surprising benefits of power exchange, from deeper intimacy to hotter passion.

BDSM Limits and Boundaries: Building a Sandbox for BDSM Play

What’s the difference between BDSM limits and boundaries—and why do they matter so much? Learn how to confidently set, communicate, and honor your BDSM limits and boundaries to create safer, hotter, and more connected power exchange dynamics.

Bootstrapping a D/s Dynamic: The Bottom-Up Approach to Building Dom Sub Dynamics with New Partners

Want a D/s dynamic but not sure how to start with a new partner? Learn how to build your Dom/sub relationship step by step—no experience or rigid contract required. Explore bottom-up D/s dynamics that grow with you.

How to Have Difficult Conversations with Your Partner

Need to have a talk with a partner? This guide explores the art of navigating difficult conversations, with proven tools for improving communication skills, and creating deeper connections—whether in serious or casual relationships.

Building Trust in Dom/sub Relationship is a Two-Way Street

Explore the two sides of trust in Dom/Sub dynamics. Understand how to be trustworthy and how to trust your partner, creating a fulfilling and secure D/s relationship.

BDSM Rewards for Submissives

Has your submissive been a good girl? Need a way to encourage and appreciate her for her efforts? Learn about BDSM rewards for submissives including the 5 principles of rewards, the different systems and levels of rewards, and different types of rewards with examples.

BDSM Punishments for Submissives

Has your submissive broken a rule? Need a way to correct her behavior? Learn about BDSM punishments for submissives including the 7 principles of punishments, the different levels of punishment and how to choose the correct one, and different types of punishments with examples.

Two Must-Ask Questions for Better Sex

These two deceptively simple questions will change your sex life and drastically improve your chances of finding fulfillment in your pleasure.

Not All DDlg is the Same: How to Enjoy DDlg without Ageplay

Curious about DDlg or Daddy Dom/ little girl dynamics in BDSM buy not sure about ageplay? Learn some misconceptions about DDlg, the psychology of someone who might enjoy it, and ways to experience without ageplay.

Dom Sub Contract: Structuring Your D/s Dynamic (Free Template)

Ready to take your D/s dynamic to the next level? This guide will walk you step by step through structuring your D/s dynamic using a Dom sub contract, sometimes referred to as a slave contract or BDSM contract, complete with rules, rituals, protocols, punishments, and a structure that suits your reality and makes space for both of your needs and desires.

Relationship Check In Questions for Dominant/Submissive Couples

Want a way to keep a regular pulse on your dynamic? With these relationship check in questions you'll be able to express gratitude, address problems, uncover needs and desires, and improve both sides of the slash so that you have a healthy, loving, and thriving dynamic.

Sex Menu: Ultimate Tool To Quickly Communicate Your Desires

Having trouble communicating your desires with your partner? Try using a sex menu, a powerful tool for telling your partner everything that turns you on, quickly and with less anxiety about talking about your desires!

How to Fix a Sexually Incompatible Relationship

Struggling in a sexually incompatible relationship? Maybe your libidos are mismatched or you have different sex drives, desires, or relationship structures you wish to pursue. This article will give you three options for you can fix your sexual incompatibility and return to a thriving sex life.

8 BDSM Tasks to Give Your Submissive to Help Them Grow

Looking for tasks to give your submissive? Use these 8 types of BDSM tasks for improving your D/s dynamic, helping your submissive grow, and having a lot of sexy fun along the way!

Your Attachment Style is Impacting Your Relationships and Sex Life (Including Casual Sex)

What is your attachment style? Do you feel secure, or do you sometimes get told your clingy or maybe unavailable? Do you know how attachment styles effect your relationships and sex life? This article will cover everything you need to know about your attachment style and how to become more secure.

5 Tools to Communicate Your Sexual Turn Ons

You have so many desires you wish to have fulfilled, yet you don't know how to bring them up with your partner... Worse yet, you fear they will judge you, shame you, find you disgusting... How will you ever live out your fantasies? These 5 tools will make communicating with your partner quick, easy, and a lot of fun for the both of you, all within a container of openness and non-judgement.

Your Greatest Fear In A Relationship: They Will Leave You

What's your greatest relationship fear? Why are you always afraid to have deep conversations with your partner? Why do not enforce boundaries? Why do feel insecure? All of these are just masks of the same underlying fear: that your partner will leave you. Discover how this fear wreaks havoc on your relationships and what you can do to overcome it.

5 Relationship Stages for Couples Pursuing Purpose

These five relationship stages are important for every couple to know whether your monogamous or non-monogamous. But if purpose is important in your life, these stages are not what you think are.

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Get Started With D/s Fast

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BDSM Punishment Ideas

Having trouble coming up with unique and effective ways to punish your sub for breaking the rules? Get the inspiration you need by downloading my free list of 81 Ways to Punish Your Submissive and find the one that's perfect for you!

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Dom Sub Contract Template

Download my free Dom sub contract template complete with sections for rules, rituals, protocols, punishments, and builds a dynamic that suits your reality and makes space for both of your needs and desires. With this contract you'll be ready to start building the D/s dynamic you've always dreamed about.

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Sex Menu Template

A sex menu is a communication and self discovery tool. If you have a hard time speaking about sex in person, your desires, and your boundaries, it can be easier to write it down. Most people have also never taken the time to really express what turns them on, what they want in sex, and just leave it up to chance. In my experience, great consistent sex happens with communication (and a whole lot of fun along the way.) This free, easy to use template features 350+ kinky sex acts you can rate, make notes, and share with your partner!

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